Intimacy and Heart Disease: Resuming Sexual Intimacy

Be patient. Give your partner and yourself time to rebuild intimacy.

Helpful hints

• Start out slowly and give yourself time to feel ready. Try hugging, kissing, touching, or caressing at first. They help you both feel close and wanted.

• Foreplay is activities that arouse but are short of intercourse. They help the body relax for the activities to come next.

• Choose a quiet, relaxed place to be intimate. Keep the temperature in the room comfortable.

• Choose a time when you both feel rested. Try when you wake up in the morning or after taking a nap.

• Wait at least 1 hour after eating, taking a bath or shower, or exercising before you have sex.

• If your healthcare provider has prescribed medicine to be taken before sex, take it as directed.

If you have problems

• If you have chest pain (angina) during sex, stop and take nitroglycerin as prescribed. Call your healthcare provider as directed. Keep in mind that it is not safe to take nitroglycerin along with certain medicines for erectile dysfunction (ED). If you have chest pain after having taken a medicine that makes nitroglycerin unsafe, don't take nitroglycerin. Instead, wait and relax for a few minutes. If your chest pain does not get better and go away, call your healthcare provider.

• If you have shortness of breath during sex, stop for a few minutes. If it doesn’t go away, or if it comes back when you resume sex, call your healthcare provider.

• If you have trouble sleeping after sex, or you are very tired the next day, talk to your healthcare provider.

• If you can’t become aroused, talk with your healthcare provider. ED is fairly common, especially in people who have heart disease. It may also be caused by certain heart medicines, especially those for blood pressure control. Your healthcare provider may be able to change the dose of your medicine. Or they may give you medicine to improve sexual function unless you are taking nitrates.

If you’ve had heart surgery

If you’ve had heart surgery, ask your healthcare provider when you can resume sex. Once your healthcare provider says it's OK, sex should not cause any harm. Healing from surgery most often takes 4 to 6 weeks. To prevent pain until you’ve healed, stick with lower-level activities that don't put stress on your chest.